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Wednesday, October 16, 2013

It Was Always the Love Songs

This has been on my heart for a couple weeks so I just wanted to put it out there. For a girl who claims to have developed a black heart, I’ve kiiiiiind of been turning back into a softie. Maybe it’s because the impending one year anniversary of my failed engagement is coming up? Maybe I’m just a big wuss? Who knows? Either way, I’ve found myself tearing up to some “love songs” lately. I say that in quotes because I know one of these you might not consider a love song, but to me, it’s perfection.
The definition of a love song to me is either one of two things: A) It’s one of YOUR songs. It triggers a memory, moment in time and immediately makes you think of THEM. Not necessarily a typical romantic tune. B) Classic love songs that any girl would want a guy to play for them. Then there’s also just straight up panty dropping music (Boys II Men, Usher, Keith Sweat, etc.) But we’ll save those for another post, because they definitely don’t make me cry. We all have songs that go with relationships (or non-relationships) that just fit the vibe of the situation. Each boyfriend I’ve ever had we’ve had a defining song, usually several of them. Anytime I hear these songs, they resonate an instant memory with me. And oddly enough, I’ve heard them all very recently and been brought to tears. I’m going to tell you a little story about each other… as if this post needed to be drawn out more...
 
Train – Meet Virginia
This was my first “boyfriend” song I would say. My first real boyfriend was in 9th grade, it wasn’t a long or overly serious relationship but it was my first experience with a lot of things, including a very strong attachment to a boy. I am so fortunate to still have this boy in my life. I told you a little about him here. And I’d like to think we will always be connected. We have tried to give it a go together countless times (pretty much anytime either of us has a breakup) and he definitely deserves the award for the person who has tried to be with me the most number of times. He has grown into an amazing man, but it’s funny that not too long ago we heard this song and kissed and it took me right back to being 14 years old.
Jagged Edge – Healing
This is a tough one for me. This has Skye written all over it. He introduced me to this song in 2003 when we first started dating. This song had such a special meaning to me. Everything about it just defines us. We listened it to during every major milestone and makeup moment throughout our relationship and it was going to be our First Dance song at our wedding. He played it the first night he told me he loved me, when he gave me my promise ring, after our first huge fight, we listened to it on repeat on our first vacay together, any romantic moment he planned, every birthday, the night he asked me to marry him, and so many times the last month we were together (Oct 2012) after we decided it would be our first dance song. I’ll be honest and tell you I can barely stand to hear it now. It breaks my heart and makes me think of a completely different time in my life. When someone promised they would always love me.
Taylor Swift – Our Song
I know we all hate on TSwift now but back in the day I used to love her. This song was my ringtone for the whole year that it first came out. Skye hated it, but we would always sing it so loud when my phone rang. I heard it for the first time in years the other day and I actually teared up. DO NOT FREAKING JUDGE ME BECAUSE TSWIFT MADE ME TEAR UP! It has nothing to do with her haha!
Jack Johnson – Better Together, Banana Pancakes
Skye also introduced me to Jack Johnson. He was much more of a lover than me so he was all into this kind of music for a while. Better Together became our 2nd song, behind Healing. It always made everything better, and he would always remind me that we were better together. I still love Jack Johnson and luckily I can still listen to him without being sad.
Moving along from Skye…
Justin Moore – Bed of My Chevy
This is not a boyfriend song! WHEW! But remember my fireman boy toy? Seems like every time he and I were together we would hear Justin Moore. This song reminds me of him because it’s just a cute version of a fun country love song.
John Legend – ANYTHING! Play me some John Legend and my panties are out the window.
Train - Marry Me
Typical wedding type of song, but I love it and always swoon over it.
Eli Young Band – Crazy Girl
There's really no special meaning to this one, I just love the lyrics.
Ed Cash – Marry Me
you’ve probably never heard of this one, Ed Cash is an amazing Christian genre singer, this has been one of my fav love songs since I heard it at a church conference in high school. He actually wrote this song as a proposal to his wife. I would just melt right into a puddle.
 
One of my fav parts of a wedding is always the first dance song, and now you know what mine would have been. For the wedding I was in over the weekend, theirs was "Hey Pretty Girl" by Kip Moore. What was yours or what would you envision yours to be??

32 comments:

Cassie said...

i am such a music junkie too. so many songs make me think of SO many things.

our song was 'i cross my heart' by George strait. i still love that song - but it definitely hits the heart a little bit.

Rachel said...

I love all of these songs and I could never see you with a black heart...sorry lady! Your to sweet for that!

Duh! Danae said...

When I first heard 'Crazy Girl' I was riding in a truck with Billy and we had just got done arguing. I cried haha then we were over the fight.

P!nky said...

Music makes everything more magical. I love the tswift song, it'sso happy go lucky and sweet.

Our first dance was to Sugarland's "stuck like glue". Not a typical wedding song, but we aren't a typical schmoopy couple. The song came out a few months into our relationship and it's been ours ever since.

Erin @ Keep Calm and Sparkle said...

Eff that TS!!

Music is such an amazing outlet!! I have a CD of all the songs played on our wedding slide show and I tear up listening to it! I am such a damn sap!!

Our song was Kenny Chesney's Me & You. It is the hubs ringtone to this day.

Ashlyn said...

If you need to talk about your cold black heart with anyone, I'm your girl! I've definitely been there. I'm going to let the tswizzle song slide this time ;) But I am forrealz obsessed with Eli Young Band

Stephanie said...

I'm still avoiding these types of songs. I'll get there someday. :)

Mikell Gordon said...

hey girl! Thanks for leaving a comment on my guest post on Lindsey's blog at Life on Countryside!

P.s. I LOVE every single one of these songs you posted- especially meet Virginia. I met Charlie Colin a few years ago-- NICEST most down to earth man I've ever met.. so awesome!

Anyways, I'm excited to read more of your blog posts!

-Mikell

Katie said...

Reading the Healing 'story' made me sad. You are a crazy strong girl. Don't know how you do it! I'm proud of you though!!!

I think I have heard maybe 3 or 4 of these songs. I need to freshen up on my love songs.

Our song is Blake Shelton 'God Gave Me You' Andy isn't into sappy love songs, but anytime that song comes on when we are both in the car he cranks it loud and holds my hand. Makes me melt every time.

Jordon said...

You and your black heart!!! Whenever I hear the song "Its Your Love" it makes me physically ill because it reminds me of my shithead ex boyfriend. We danced to "Then" and it cut into "Queen of My Double Wide Trailer" at our wedding. We are classy folks like that, ya know ;)

Pamela said...

Love this beautiful post. Oh, Jack Johnson. Reminds me SO much of my ex. He introduced me to him too. I love his music but sometimes can't listen to it!

Amanda aka Manda said...

I love all these songs! You know me and music.

Stephanie said...

Coming up on 1 year already? Wow. You are leaps and bounds a different, stronger person, and I love that. You rock lady.
And I loved TSwift and Our Song at one point too. I can't judge.

Helene in Between said...

ohhhh i think it's perfectly fine for these songs to "get" you. and i think crying is perfectly healthy and normal. especially when it's jack johnson. love that song.

Treasure Tromp said...

I can't believe that it has been almost 1 year!

and I am the same way with John Legend. I dragged my manfriend to a JL concert a couple of years ago and just about lost my shit. That man is amazing

Kerry @ Till Then Smile Often said...

I guess it depends on the person I end up with but I think I would love our song to be Lonestar's Amazed would be a great song for a first dance. Also Never Stop (Wedding Version) by Safety Suit, total cry fest!

Christa Gilbert said...

It amazes me how music can evoke so much emotion and such intense memories! I'm seriously singing Our Song now...I love it too, it's ok.

Our first dance was going to be a George Strait song but, right before the wedding, we heard Then by Brad Paisley and my then fiance commented on how that was going to be our life! I secretly got in touch with our DJ and made the switch...Hubs loved it. Oddly enough, Ramble On by Led Zeppelin is our song...we walked down the aisle as a married couple to it.

Loved this post!

Laura {happily ever} Parker said...

I can't help but think that perhaps that "healing" song can take o new meaning now? Like you are healing? I feel for you - but things fall apart so better things can come together. Our wedding song is Happy Everafter In Your Eyes by Ben Harper. It was actually a lullaby Ben wrote for Heath Ledgers daughter!

LB @ Table For One said...

Oh darling you don't have a black heart! You're just feeling reminiscent with this impending "anniversary". I'm here for you! If you need to escape, there are plenty of places in Athens where we can drink away these feelings :) Smooches!

vicky dahiya said...

Love this beautiful post. Oh, Jack Johnson. Reminds me SO much of my ex. He introduced me to him too. I love his music but sometimes can't listen to it!Songs Lyrics | Hindi Songs Lyrics

Jordan said...

Oh man, there are so many songs that can instantly transport me to (what feels like was) a different lifetime. Only You Can Love Me This Way & Until Summer Comes Around (Keith Urban), Wish You Were Here (Pink Floyd), Wonderwall (Oasis), Silver Coin (Angus & Julia Stone - DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS EVER), Eyes on Fire (Blue Foundation), Wetter (Twista - LOL), and basically any third coast rapper... my ex was a thug. Haha. I can listen to most of them now and be okay (especially rap, hello) but Silver Coin and the country songs will always get me. Always.

Love this post and love you. Giving you a big ass hug from Texas!

Kristin said...

Ours was Faithfully by Boyce Avenue.
I love and hate how certain songs pull at your heart!!

Kimberly said...

Nikki, your posts are always amazing. This topic has been on my mind the past couple of days, because I think a wedding may be in my near future! But anyway, our song would definitely be "Faithfully" by Journey... old school classic, just like our relationship! I think deep down, it's been the song I've always wanted my first dance to be to!

Fran @ Sassy Southern Bride said...

Even though she has a lot of haters and totally has mouseface, I don't hate TSwift. I have Red and every time I hear it I think WHERE was this album when I was single? She just gets it.

Erin @ Sugar Magnolia said...

Our first dance song was to "All My Love" by Led Zeppelin. It was pretty awesome (;

Jackie said...

I have been known to shed a tear or 5 when I hear Crazy Girl. Especially if I am feeling especially lame and single haha.

Ashleigh said...

My ex fiance introduced me to country music & since then I have loved it but with it still comes memories! Some are easier then others but it still hurts especially when you hear the one you two had chosen to be the first dance together @ your wedding... I am so sorry sweet girl! I am not sure what happened to you & him but I do wish you to have calm in the storm..

Marissa @ Glitz & Giggles said...

Ah, Train's "Marry Me" is always a tear jerker!

- Marissa & For Glitz & Giggles

Hallie Oceanside said...

the song I picked was "we are man and wife" by Michelle Featherstone. There was so much meaning in the song for the both of us and I just couldn't pick anything else.

but I always thought a country song would have graced my cowboy boot filled wedding!

Joey said...

Eli Young Band Crazy Girl. I'd get inside my head too much the first year or two we were married. And I'm a pretty difficult person to love. This song-despite J never ever saying it-was just a reassurance to me.

Ed Cash: Marry Me. I used to listen to this song ON REPEAT! Love love love this song!

Janna Renee said...

Oh how we relate to songs...Banana Pancakes was my ex's song for me because my nickname is banana ;) My ex and I are still friends, so at least it doesn't want to make me puke, haha.

Becca Moss said...

Ahhhh I'm a full on music junkie therefore I loved this post way more than I probably should have. Train is such an awesome band!